Archive for May, 2013

Posted on: May 31st, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments


 

It was a short work week in the U.S. but it felt like forever…

Celebrate Memorial Day the way Cher would…lots of hot men in uniform and prancing around a battle ship.

Titillating Tuesday ponders, what if we could turn back time?

Tippy deals with more problems from men.

The History of Sex wraps up the celebration of Masturbation Month

History of Sex, Part 67

Posted on: May 30th, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

We took the good, we took the bad, we took them both and there we have the facts of masturbation.  If you go way back, masturbation was good and a part of many aspects of life.  Starting a few hundred years ago, weird guilt issues popped up and masturbation became a taboo subject.  Cut to the present day and masturbation jokes are a dime a dozen and Good Vibrations is a thriving business.  What changed?

The harbinger of the sexual revolution was the Kinsey Report, published in 1948 and 1953.  (One day, the History of Sex will tackle that behemoth.)  Kinsey reported that masturbation was natural and instinctive for mammals of both sexes and that it was way more common than people thought.  Although Kinsey’s methodology and results were criticized by a lot of his peers, it did a lot to open up sex talk for the general public.

Through out the 60s and 70s, sex became more and more open.  By the 1980s, the French philosopher Foucault was saying that parents not allowing their children to masturbate was a form of rape — extreme of course but something no one would have said 50 years prior.

Masturbation has gone mainstream but it can still get people in trouble.  In addition to numerous male celebrities getting caught with their pants down in the wrong place at the wrong time, Dr. Joyce Elders got herself into a pickle.  When she was the Surgeon General of the U.S., she said that high school curricula should say that masturbation is safe and natural.  The right wing had a field day with this and used it to get her to resign.

Here’s hoping you had a great masturbation month!  Many thanks to the wonderful people at Good Vibrations for creating this month of self love awareness.

Talk to Tippy

Posted on: May 29th, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

 

Talk to Tippy for outrageously honest advice.  Call it the second opinion we all wish we had.  Unabashedley candid and insightful – trust Tippy for guidance with dating, relationship or sexual conundrums.  Yes, you can Talk to Tippy!

 

Dear Tippy,

I have been propositioned to have sex with two other woman that I know. My only worry is that I’ll get stage fright and not be able to perform because of too much pressure. They know I am a virgin by choice, and I’m not particularly waiting for anything but for someone or some people to feel comfortable enough to perform with. I said yes, but I told them I needed time to think about this whole situation. Is there any way to relieve performance anxiety in this kind of situation? Also any tips for a threesome anyone might want to offer?

Signed,

Newbie

 

That sounds much less like porn and more like naked recess.  What fun!

Dear Mr. Newbie,

Without knowing you, I would suggest that since you are a virgin, you will probably have the opposite of performance anxiety.  Don’t worry about hitting one out of the park right away, which you will do, then you can get down to the business of finding ways to please the ladies.  Make sure you ask them what they want.  There’s no better way to learn than to have someone show you what works.  My best long term advice would be to remember that no one responds the same way to the same thing and communication is your friend.

It’s going to be such a rollicking good time.  Make sure you talk about it after and strategize for the next outing.  Because there’s certain to be one.  Photos?

Love,

Tippy

 

Dear Tippy,

So my girlfriend and I just started having sex, at first with a condom and it was ok… then subsequent times I found it harder and harder to cum and she wasn’t getting anything out of it as well.  She has a history of cancer in her family so is very nervous about birth control.

I am 29 years old and have no children and I want to keep it that way. She is older has kids and DOES NOT want any more.

Am I in the wrong in this situation? Thoughts would be appreciated.

Signed,

Kid Free Zone

Dear Free Zone,

Wow.  That was a quick trip back to the 70’s.  Both of you need more education.   Have her look into getting a non-hormonal copper IUD, it definitely sounds like an ideal long term, low maintenance solution for her situation. link- http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/iud-4245.htm

And you, get better fitting condoms.  Add a little lube in first to make it all feel better.

Love,

Tippy

Got a question for Tippy?  Write to her at: TalktoTippy@gmail.com

If You Could

Posted on: May 28th, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

As Cher sang to us yesterday If You Could Turn Back Time where would you want to go? The possibilities seem endless; back to the beginning of time, back to the turn of the century, back to when you were fourteen and had your first really big crush.

Door number one fascinates me and frightens me at the same time. Truly, who knows what the world was like then but extremely challenging (by our standards) and lonely come to mind. The turn of the century has always intrigued me. Maybe that’s why I write about it. But it would depend if turning back time was forever or just a glimpse. I could see myself there for a short while but wouldn’t want to live there full time. And even if my first crush was a hot one, it was so full of pre-teenage angst, to relive it would be painfully humiliating. Revisiting Johnny Mathers when I was in my late twenties is another matter altogether.

If you could turn back time would it be to fix some nagging regret or to have an experience you always longed for? Would it be for an exciting discovery or a repeat of something grand. Food for thought.

ML

Music Monday

Posted on: May 27th, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

Happy Memorial Day!