Archive for January, 2014

The History of Sex Part 95 – The Red Carpet

Posted on: January 30th, 2014 by Madison Lake No Comments

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As we eagerly await this year’s Oscar academy nominees gliding down the red carpet, and with the anticipation created by the Golden Globes and the Grammys, I started thinking about the red carpet tradition and how it has taken on a life of its own.  Maybe its just me, but who cares about the awards at all – its just about the fashion!

Walking along a red carpet seems to have originated with the railroad of all things.  Conductors ‘rolled out the red carpet’ to direct passengers to the 20th Century Limited train.  Known for its style as well as for its speed, passengers walked to and from the train on a plush, crimson carpet which was rolled out in New York and Chicago.  Thus, the “red carpet treatment” was born.

But it actually goes back much further than this.  The red carpet makes its first appearance on the Greek stage in Aeschylus’ 5th century play Agamemnon, where it symbolizes tribute to the gods.  It is no wonder that we ask society’s dignitaries, world leaders and our divine celebs to walk this same line.  It is as though the carpet itself is the stage for our chosen gods and heroes to walk among us.

When Sid Grauman opened the Egyptian Theatre, the red carpet became a symbol for Hollywood glamor.  A cat-walk for non-models, it has since become an annual showcase for trends making their way from the divine figures on the carpet to the mere mortals on the street and back again.  Let us know your faves this year as the carpet unfurls!

Talk to Tippy

Posted on: January 30th, 2014 by Madison Lake No Comments

Talk to Tippy for outrageously honest advice. Call it the second opinion we all wish we had. Unabashed and candid and insightful – trust Tippy for guidance with dating, relationship or sexual conundrums. Yes, you can Talk to Tippy!  

Dear Tippy,

I am 28 and he is 32. We have been together nine years and I only recently found out that he’s made a habit of hiring prostitutes while traveling for business, which is often. I moved out when I learned that he slept with another woman, and he just revealed this dark secret to me after months of me thinking he had only two moments of infidelity with the same woman.

He says he’s a sex addict.  How likely is a recovery? Is sexual addiction actually an addiction?

I’m just torn up.

Signed,

Lost Lucy

 

Dear Luce,

I don’t mean to sound like an arse, but I think there is a distinction between being a legitimate sex addict and sleeping with prostitutes while on business and saying you’re a sex addict so your wife doesn’t leave you.

There is no way anyone could possibly know where your husband lies on this scale, I just wanted to make sure it was known.

As well, with the chump saying he’s a sex addict, it takes away his responsibility for his actions.  Sex addiction is an excuse many people used to downplay their infidelity.  This is a very grey area because everyones tolerance level is different so the line keeps moving.   I believe sexual addiction is very rare and I don’t think banging some hookers when you’re off on business makes you a sex addict. I think a true sex addict will do anything for sex. If getting a few hookers is the only thing your husband was doing, he’s full of shit. He was just cheating and he got caught.

However, if he’s waited this long to be honest to you, my little Kitten, I doubt he really regrets his actions. Move on with your life. You’re still young. And as other people have probably suggested you should probably check yourself for STI’s, get a new haircut and shoes and walk away from this.  Good luck.

Love,

The Tipster

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Red Carpet Fever

Posted on: January 28th, 2014 by Madison Lake No Comments

I don’t know about you, but award season can be a bit of a snoozefest with the same few celebs winning the same few awards giving similar sounding, oft-forgotten acceptance speeches. But the one thing I never get bored of throughout this season is the red carpet fashion: the gowns, the tuxes, the hair, the jewels, the shooes! Everybody is looking their absolute sexiest, representing their personal style; something we don’t always glimpse through their on-screen characters.

The night after any award show I like to grab a glass of wine and call my sister, both of us pulling up the same New York Times or BuzzFeeed webpage on our ipads and scrolling through the red carpet photos. Calling out our personal hits & misses like our private fashion police, minus the Rivers-esque bullying.

Here is one of my favorite dresses of this season so far and one of the few that my sister and I both agreed on. The statuesque Laura Dern, all 46-years of her, poured into this slinky Cavalli dress. There to represent her own thoughtful HBO show, “Enlightened”, and to support her father’s nomination for “Nebraska”, Ms.Dern strolled the red carpet showing all the starlets how it’s done.

The History of Sex – Part 94 – Pussy Riot

Posted on: January 23rd, 2014 by Madison Lake No Comments

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More protest-art than punk, the live shows of Pussy Riot – who rock-out in jumpers and ski masks as they shout “Kill All Sexists” – have introduced a revolutionary new chapter in The History of Sex.  Their arrest and trial has polarized Russian citizens and turned an obscure feminist band into a celebrity cause around the world.

Nadezhda, Maria and Yekaterina were arrested during a protest at Moscow’s Cathedral of Christ the Saviour in what is now being seen as a sea-change in Russian sexual politics. Together with the so-called re-election of Putin in late 2011, Russia’s pro-orthodox religious agenda and anti-gay laws have sparked massive controversy for Putin’s Games: the 2014 Olympics in Sochi.

Recently, Putin seemed to realize that the bad publicity was really going to cost him, as many world leaders threatened to stay home. Obama’s delegation to the Olympics — filled with several openly gay athletes rather than a single government official – was a brilliantly bold move, since now Putin won’t be able to get his coveted photo-ops with “the guys”. Out of the blue he scrambled to release Pussy Riot, along with other dissidents, by forcing through an amnesty law in December 2013. The gorgeous Maria – the first to be freed from jail – told a Russian TV channel that the amnesty was a PR stunt and in true punk rock fashion she would rather have remained in prison, despite suffering human rights abuses while on the inside.

With Pussy Riot’s upcoming Amnesty International concert on February 5th in Brooklyn under the spotlight of the upcoming Sochi games, the tenuous relationship between Putin and the international community will be on display. I suppose the world will just have to wait and see the events unfold as we are witness to the history of sex in the making.

Talk to Tippy

Posted on: January 23rd, 2014 by Madison Lake No Comments

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Dear Tippy,

I’ve just recently had one of those crazy spontaneous moments where I ended up having sex in the back of a car.  I’m in my early 40’s and find it inconceivable that it happened at all, but more than that I can’t stop thinking about the roughness and intention and chemistry I had with someone I hardly know.  It’s been over two weeks and even though I’ve been on other dates with other fellows, I keep replaying this encounter in my mind and it’s blowing my concentration.  I just know my partner enjoyed himself.  I just know it.  But I haven’t heard from him.  I sent him one text.  Just one.  And nothing.  I don’t want to hound him or send off the “needy” vibe but come ON, where IS this guy?  Any suggestions as to my next move, Tip?

Signed,

Back seat Betty

 

Dear Betts,

Well.  And you probably thought your wild days were done?  This is indication of coming into a terrific period of lust in your life.  Oh lucky you.  Is he at least 15 years your junior?  Or totally out of your typical dating zone?  Soon you will be looking out for every opportunity to have sex in out of the ordinary places.  But I digress.

Keep the thoughts alive.  It will keep you from eating ice cream late at night, make you buy great new under things and change your swagger, for sure.  But I would suggest holding off on getting in touch again until you have a real reason.  There must be something you did or something you have in common that bears mentioning in the weeks to come?  When that happens, I would be coy and clever and not demand a response.  Just lob a flare.  If you hear back, he’s interested but playing the power game or he’s attached.  If you’re fine with all of that, it’s his ball.  If not, move along.  Few things are as much of a buzz kill as being hounded.

Well, there’s hounded and then there’s hounded.  When you send that next communique craft a remarkable sext.  Take your time replying to him.  Like a few hours or even the next day.  Two can play this game!  And when it comes down to the next meeting, have a few interesting locations picked out.  If he doesn’t respond again, the event will just get bigger and better in your mind and the telling of it will get richer.  That’s the upside.  And that you’re primed.  Take heart.  This is all good.

Love,

Tippy

 

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