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I have to rant. Even in this day in age, why is it STILL that if a guy does several girls, he’s a stud…if a girl does several guys, she’s a slut. As a woman who loves sex, I don’t understand why this view is still fairly common. I am divorced and I am careful about whom and what I take to bed but even my closest friends, many of whom are married, still can’t quite get past the idea that I might be just a “bit loose” – which is what I was accused of last weekend. What’s your opinion and what the hell is wrong with society that we can’t seem to shake that stereotype?
Mel the Manlover.
I have been spearheading that quiet revolution for many years. I’m sorry, I don’t get it either. I know you came to me with the idea that I could provide solid advice that would help you deal with this conundrum but I too, am positively stumped. For me, it’s a personal pride thing. For the most part, I have been careful when enjoying the many (many) sexual encounters I’ve had over the years but it came to my attention early on and consistently ever since, that we women must not brag or gloat about exploits or notches on our bracelets. Not only is the mention of it still unacceptable in most circles, disputing or discussing it paints us with a brush saturated with a color that just won’t dry. And that, my sisters, is not the hill I want to die on.
In my opinion – it’s manners that separates the classes. And I’ve chosen to take the high road. Let some big galoot go on and on about his numbers, just sit quietly, legs crossed under the table, stockinged toe leisurely inquiring up the pantleg of the gentleman opposite as you both listen to the bragging session. Who’s winning now?
Be a good girl. Emphasis on “good”. I think that’s where they get the “good” in goodnight from.
What about “good” bye? Changes everything, doesn’t it? Oh and that person who called you a “bit loose”, isn’t getting any sex at all. Smiling now?
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