Archive for May, 2014

In a world where women had few opportunities – especially before the mid-19th century – divorce laws and settlements were essential for women’s rights.

Divorce

This picture shows the situation in which many women found themselves — tied to a marriage that gave them few rights or options, with huge obstacles to ending it.  Shackled to her husband, she reaches towards the gate titled “Divorce” — but is blocked by a figure who represents both the church and the law (note the police hat and billy club).

Skip ahead a hundred years and we have a very different story.  In a world where marriages can cost in the hundreds of millions, as we saw this past week with Kim & Kanye, we feel the need for expensive divorces more than ever – and these days 50% of all marriages end in divorce in the U.S.

Of course, celebrity divorces rank up there as the most expensive mistakes in history.  And you can’t have a discussion about costly break-ups without mentioning Arnold Schwarzenegger.  Arnold and his wife, Maria Shriver split after a 25 year long marriage.  They even have four children together.  What happened?  Well we all know the story of the rich man who slept with the housekeeper.  And then they had a kid.  Whoops.  That’s going to cost you over $300 million, Arnie!

But no one does divorce bigger than Rupert Murdoch, who has not made it to the top of the list a couple of times.  After a 32-year marriage, he and Anna Maria Torv divorced, costing over $2 billion.  Murdoch went on to marry Wendy Deng just 17 days after his first divorce finalized, and was ready to do it all over again 13 years later, with $2 billion.

On Monday, the history of divorce escalated to new extremes, as a Swiss court ordered Russian oligarch and Monaco soccer club owner Dmitry Rybolovlev to pay over $4.5 billion to his ex-wife.  On top of the money, half of Dmitry’s fortune, Elena will get 3 different properties—one of which is worth $146 million—and custody of their 13-year-old daughter Anna.

 Robolovlev’s settlement figures leaves all others in the dust….but for how long?

 

Talk to Tippy

Posted on: May 28th, 2014 by Madison Lake No Comments

 

Talk to Tippy for outrageously honest advice. Call it the second opinion we all wish we had. Unabashed and candid and insightful – trust Tippy for guidance with dating, relationship or sexual conundrums. Yes, you can Talk to Tippy!  

Dear Tippy,

I live with my boyfriend, work for my boyfriend’s company which is run out of our house, and I am so sick of my life. I feel so bored, and unhappy with myself. What do I do?

Signed,

If You Can Die of Boredom, My Life is in Danger

 

Dear Near Death,

Just reading your question made me sick of your boyfriend and I’ve never even met the guy. He’s probably a charming chap. But seriously, when do you get a break from him? You work together all day, you probably hang out together at night and then you sleep in the same bed. Ugh. When do you get a chance to miss him?

But, this is your responsibility.

So first off, you’ve got to get some breathing space. It’s like you’re a hostage for gosh sakes and there aren’t a lot of happy hostages. Go find a hobby, get drinks with some girlfriends or start exercising. Then you can delight your boyfriend with some funny stories about your time away – like how someone got kicked out of your yoga class for digestive failure.  That is the kind of priceless stuff that keeps a relationship alive.  Get a dog.  Or a fish.  Lease an office space.  Paint the living room.  Enroll in a course.  Take a trip.

If you feel it’s gone beyond that, just pretend you’ve been kidnapped.  Start imagining you can start from zero somewhere else, or that Witness Protection has given you a new lease on life.  If things are as bad as you say, take drastic action.

If things aren’t?  I just have no tolerance for this.  There are starving women in China who haven’t had sex for years.  Quite freaking whining.

 

Love,

Tippy.

 

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The net is alive this week with hype and chatter about Kim & Kanye’s wedding.

Very few details were known about the sure-to-be elaborate ceremony, and though Kanye has been uncharacteristically silent about the details, by all other accounts it is shaping up to be one of the most expensive weddings in history.

The couple will wed at Florence’s Forte di Belvedere, built by the Medici family.  Renting the 16th-century fortress for the weekend cost the couple $400,000.  Guests will also get a “surprise” tour of Versailles, even though the couple was barred from hosting the whole event there (probably because they aren’t European).  Getting a look at what she is wearing is likely the only reason to pay attention to this big show, which will likely cost in the neighborhood of $30 million!

Sound lavish?  Let’s look at some of history’s other high-priced hitches!

To get some perspective, when scientology wed Tom Cruise to Katie Holmes, the price tag was just $2 million and it was also held at a Castle in Italy.  Moving up the scale we have Chelsea Clinton’s recent marriage to the Goldman Sachs investment banker, Marc Mezinsky which cost about $5 million.  But a lot of security means a high price tag…as we can see with William and Kate’s wedding, having cost almost $34 million to showcase the event in front of hundreds of millions on TV.  This didn’t even come close to Prince Charles and Lady Diana which would’ve cost over $100 million today.

Another top-priced wedding tells a different story.  In 2004, it included 5 days of festivities at a 16th-century chateau and at Versailles.   Who is the 16th century Italian castle wedding planner who has the keys to Versailles?   Anyway, it was the wedding of the richest daughter in the world, Vanisha Mittal, to Amit Bhatia, an investment banker who worked for her father, a billionaire steel magnate, costing an estimated $60 million.

Mittal and Bhatia sensationally divorced last year, and even though it seems that Kim & Kanye might be a little out of their league here…no matter what happens, at least they’ll be able to sell TV rights, exclusive pictures, sponsorships and cash in all those gifts!

Just to get ready, next week we’ll be taking a closer look at some of the most expensive divorces in The History of Sex.

 

 

Talk to Tippy

Posted on: May 21st, 2014 by Madison Lake No Comments

Talk to Tippy for outrageously honest advice. Call it the second opinion we all wish we had. Unabashed and candid and insightful – trust Tippy for guidance with dating, relationship or sexual conundrums. Yes, you can Talk to Tippy!  

Dear Tippy,

My husband is addicted to sex. No matter what I do, he wants sex all the time. It’s so bad that I pretend I’m asleep when he reaches over to feel my body or I sleep in the guest room to avoid him.  I make him angry at me so he won’t want to have sex but nothing is working anymore. He gets mad when I tell him no or when I act like I don’t hear him.

I feel trapped in my own home. I don’t even like my body anymore because of his addiction.  It’s gotten so out of control that I’m close to just filing for a divorce. I need advice because I do love him but I’m just so tired of the sex.

Signed,

Harriets Had Enough!

 

Dear Harriet

Let’s jump right in, shall we?  Have you told David Duchovny or Tiger Woods or whoever the hell you are married to to give you some peace?  Sometimes we wish something would just handle itself but forget that we need to do the ground work.  I’m not suggesting you haven’t but just in case – really be clear that you’ve looked hubby straight in the eye and told him you’re exhausted and it’s preying on your self esteem (cuz it IS!) and if things don’t change, you’ve got to get away for a break.

Please know that you are not alone.  I know that the American Psychiatric Association has yet to recognize sexual addiction as a real addiction but it sounds pretty real to us. Just ask Téa Leoni.

Your body does not belong to him. Yes, sex is an important part of any marriage. But his incessant sexual demands do not make for a healthy relationship. The two of you need to get to a couple’s therapist as soon as possible. This situation is not going to resolve itself.

I’m worried that you describe him as getting angry when you say no. If you feel like he might get violent with you, then you should perhaps seek help from a counselor on your own before addressing this with him.

You deserve to be in a relationship where you are respected, not sexually mauled at every opportunity.  Stand tall, make the decision to change.  I’m behind you one hundred percent.

 

Best of luck, Harr.

Love,

Tippy

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Sports and entertainment have always mirrored society and shaped history.  This past summer’s Olympics in Sochi were no different.  The world rallied to support LGBT athletes – whose mere presence there broke Russia’s new laws against ‘gay propaganda’.

We can also see social change in the sudden attention paid to Michael Sam.  He’s the first openly gay athlete selected in a football draft.  The 249th pick of this season, even people who are against same-sex marriage could understand the symbolism of the first openly gay player in one of the most widely televised sports in the world.

But it was another thing entirely for them to watch, a few minutes later, as he kissed his boyfriend.  On the lips.  Over and over.

America will never be the same again.

Meanwhile in Europe, steeper barriers were being broken in entertainment.  In this year’s Eurovision Song Contest, Conchita Wurst, an Austrian known as ‘the bearded lady’, took first prize on Saturday with a James Bond-theme-like ballad Rise Like a Phoenix, before a global TV audience of about 180 million people in 45 countries.

“For me, my dream came true,” Wurst said, “But for our society, it just showed me that there are people out there who want to go into the future and go on, you know, not stepping back or thinking in the past.”

Eurovision held since 1956 as a way to unify a divided Europe after WWII, was tense this year, mirroring politics and Russian – Ukrainian relations.  Online petitions sprang up in Russia —  to have Wurst removed.  After the show, Chonchita remarked that she hoped for a “future that can function without discrimination and is based on tolerance and respect”.

Just today, it was reported that Russia will withdraw from future Eurovision song contests and stage its own “straight” version, saying “it is high time that we stop tolerating this madness.”  So it seems, in their relative triumphs, both America and Europe have a long way to go to convince the Russian bear to break down this wall.