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Our heroine, Hermioneimgres

To start off March, Women’s History Month, let’s take a closer look at one of the youngest women today attempting to make a difference in the lives of women around the world.

Born in Paris to lawyer parents in 1990, Emma Watson started acting at school at Oxford’s Stagecoach Theatre Arts at age 6.

By the time she was 11 years old she was known all around the world as the quick-witted, if not a little showy, Hermione Granger.

At first glance, Hermione was an underdog at Hogwarts trying to overcome two clear disadvantages that she had no power to control; she was born a muggle (a person without magical powers) and a girl.  But as we quickly learned, and saw proof of in the “If Hermione Granger was the Main Character in Harry Potter” aka. “Hermoine Granger and the Goddamn Patriarchy” video created by BuzzFeed, this heroine was an invaluable asset to Harry and his team of evil-fighters. To be honest, they all probably would have been murdered in the first film, I mean book, if not for Hermione’s brains and brawn.  Though the word was never uttered in the franchise films nor books, Hermione Granger, and her team of misfits were most definitely feminists.

After the series of films finally wrapped, Emma took a break from acting and went to university, graduating from Brown in 2014 with a degree in English literature.  In the summer of that year was appointed UN Women Goodwill Ambassador and just a few months later she helped launch the “HeforShe” campaign for gender equality with an historic speech at the UN Headquarters in New York City.  She admitted to the crowd that “Apparently, I am among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, too aggressive, isolating, anti-men and, unattractive.”  In her work to de-stigmatize the word feminism, she iterates that it’s true meaning is a belief in equality for all genders, “…if you still hate the word, it is not the word that is important. It’s the idea and the ambition behind it.”

The HeForShe campaign attempts to bridge the gender gap by addressing the realities that men struggle with their stereotypical gender roles as well: “When at 15, my girlfriends started dropping out of their beloved sports teams, because they didn’t want to appear muscle-y, when at 18, my male friends were unable to express their feelings, I decided that I was a feminist”

Emma’s speech emphasized that not a single country in the entire world has achieved gender equality.

Though we can clearly see the steps required to get there, we need all the help we can get.  That’s why Patricia Arquette’s oscar speech meant so much to Meryl and JLo and also why Malala’s moral fiber stands out among the oppressed.  HeForShe is really WeForWe as we all know a mother, sister, brother or father who is struggling to feel equal in a world of discrimination.

Take that, Voldemort, and your Goddamn Patriarchy!


All You Need Is…

Posted on: March 4th, 2015 by Madison Lake No Comments


I’ve been hanging out with some very good friends of mine who have been married for forty years. That’s astounding. My friends, who are close to my age! It used to be my parents and their friends who impressed me at the length and strength of their love and now my generation is creeping into that position of accomplishment. Or is it?

It certainly is, in its own right, an accomplishment, but even my friends talk openly about how they wonder, even now, whether two people are meant to be together as one couple exclusively for that long. It makes for good discussion anyway.

I know (and have known) swingers, voyeurs, and couples/singles into kink. I know men who divorced for a much younger woman, I know men in their sixties having a second or third family, I know confirmed bachelors, single and bitter men and women, and dynamic, happily single women (not so many happily single men, sadly). I know a dear couple about to embark on marriage, and if there are any two people in the world who, with one glance you know they are meant to be together, they are it. I wish them every happiness, but I don’t have to because they already have it.

I admire those couples who make it ‘work’, who have that staying power in relationship. Love changes over time. Needs and perceptions shift. It would be important to remain fluid, honest and communicative to stay connected.

Love comes in all forms and packages and we may not find it the first (or second) time around.

That does not mean my friends do not love each other. They do. After being together forty years, through pretty much everything, the love may have changed, but I imagine their bond is deep indeed.

Some may search and explore when they’re young, then settle down for the duration. Some may keep looking for greener grass their entire lives. Whether young or older, some may be happy forever with the one they found.

The crux of it all is LOVE.



Today’s Blog

Posted on: March 3rd, 2015 by Madison Lake No Comments

Coming atcha later this evening or tomorrow…

ML xo


Hello and happy 1st Monday in March!

I love March because it means that the winter is almost gone and the spring is coming soon, bringing along more sun, warmer days, bursting flowers, holidays, drinking coffee with friends outdoors, and so on.  Today I’m having a green tea and listening to Clean Bandit & Jess Glynne and their song Real Love.

I wish you a fantastic week!