I was out with a friend last night, and after talking relationships (or non), and other such matters, the issue of morals came up.
noun plural noun: morals
a lesson, especially one concerning what is right or prudent, that can be derived from a story, a piece of information, or an experience.
“the moral of this story was that one must see the beauty in what one has”
synonyms: lesson, message, meaning, significance, signification, import, point, teaching
“the moral of the story”
a person’s standards of behavior or beliefs concerning what is and is not acceptable for them to do.
“the corruption of public morals”
synonyms: moral code, code of ethics, (moral) values, principles, standards, (sense of) morality, scruples
“he has no morals”
Of course that raised the question of upbringing, religious and/or ethnic background, education, even age and generation. My friend suggested I write a blog about moral values but I reminded her it is such a ‘yuge’ topic that one cannot simply blog about it. However, we had been talking about relationships, so that narrowed it down slightly.
How does one define moral values when it comes to relationships? Does it mean both parties should be of the same mind when it comes to commitment, loyalty, monogamy? Can one person, let’s say, slip up – have a ‘one off’ sexual encounter? Does that mean his or her moral values are wrong? Is there a difference between a ‘little lie’ and a ‘big lie’? How important is communication when considering moral values in a relationship?
The question remains deeply personal. It is ingrained in each of us. Our code of ethics may change over time, for the better or the worse. Your partner or potential partner, even your friend, could be well mannered, open doors, pull out chairs, say please and thank you, smile, but engage in illicit behaviour behind the scenes.
What is your moral standard? Consider how you live by it. Do you strive to be true to your belief system even when you feel hurt or angry or betrayed?
What is your moral barometer and how often do you check it?
Heavy stuff…but important.