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It’s about a threesome. FFM. I’m the male. The 3 of us are all new to this, and we are meeting the third this weekend for drinks and hanging out to see where it goes. We’ll be in a hotel suite. What is the best way to initiate it? Allow the girls to begin making out and exploring? Have the girl I am with start playing with me in front of her? Can you give us any pointers? Especially me, who thinks he will have to perform doubly well or twice as much?
Thanks, Tippy. I wish you were coming along.
Signed, Newbie in Newton.
Dear New New,
So thoughtful of you to wish me along. It is one of my favorite things. A good threesome combo is like a fine meal. It’s the kind of thing you have in your secret arsenal, where too much of it renders it pedestrian but saving it for juuuuuust the right occasion, with the appropriate buildup is indeed a tasty treat.
I would suggest to let your female do the flirting and initiating the moves. Remember that the other girl is most likely there for your female and not you. If she wanted a guy she could have gotten one who is single …. So let females chat, flirt and whatnot whereas you be there as a support. Have great sense of humor and from time to time show affection to your girl and if the mood is right flirt with the other one. If you let your partner take the lead, you avoid the risk of going too far too quickly (which is an easy mistake to make when you’re an eager guy ready to have sex with two girls). And make sure you show ample affection to your girl – don’t make the critical error of excluding her because you’ve got someone new to play with.
Once they start kissing, just go with the flow. It’s nice to have a game plan, but sex – especially sex with multiple partners – is a chaotic system. Attempting to force it into following a pre-conceived itinerary could well be counterproductive. Remember the time you tried to plan your own birthday party and it all went south when the dog leapt on top of the table with the steak in his mouth and that girls hair started on fire and the X you handed out was bad? Well, let’s just say, that too much planning can still backfire, but being prepared is key. Letting the evening evolve organically is the best. Drink only to be social as it will detract from the experience.
Find out – maybe this weekend, what everyones favorite thing is and keep that in mind when you get together. Could you take photos for me? Good luck and don’t forget to dress to impress 🙂
I’m a homosexual male, and I was getting intimate with my boyfriend. He gets on top of me, and rides me cowgirl, but not for long. He finished in under 3 seconds … maybe 4 at a push, only enough time for me to thrust 3 times. I was left unsatisfied and both of us were quite embarrassed. This hasn’t happened before and we haven’t had sex since. It’s really quite awkward and I don’t know why it happened. I just need some help, some insight, whatever you can provide.
Thanks for your time.
Tom on Top
My dear Tom,
My my. One thing I dearly love about our gentler men is their adherence to manners. I would say almost for certain there is nothing to worry about. Perhaps he was just extremely horny? If this were the hetero world, the male would be feeling pretty slick right now, that he got his gal off in three seconds. And she would be going nuts. I think this is a victory. Treat it as such.
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