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As I flipped through the latest images of Paris Fashion Week’s sartorial statements, I was struck by the shorn pink locks that Jared Leto debuted at Vogue’s 95th anniversary party.  With a face like that his hairstyle can really do no harm.  But when I got to the photo of him canoodling with Kanye, I suddenly mourned the soft beachy waves he had been so casually rocking for the last three years.  Men with long hair have always had kind of exotic sex appeal that men with prim and proper cropped cuts just don’t.  Why do you think all the Harlequin romance covers are adorned with Fabio lookalikes?(c) York Museums Trust; Supplied by The Public Catalogue Foundation


To find out, we turn to the biblical story of Samson, the judge over Israel, and his love Delilah.  Although Samson trusted and adored Delilah she was secretly a spy for the Philistines sent to uncover his great strength and attempt to take him down. He confided in her that his Nazirite vow at birth (which consecrated him to God) would be broken if his hair was ever cut.  As he peacefully slept on her lap, she summoned her co-conspirators and shaved the seven holy braids from his head, rendering him powerless.  A man is only as strong as his last great look.

Throughout history and all around the world, men’s hair has gone through significant changes, with length often representing their status.  Roman men, for example, originally wore both their hair and beards long until around 1 CE when short hair and close-shaved faces became a sign of strength and nobility.  It is even rumoured that Caesar’s famous laurel crown was nothing but a gimmick to hide his thinning hair, the original baseball cap in dating site profile pics. 

In India from 1700-1100BCE citizens would shave their heads leaving one long strand at the back or side for god to pull people into heaven.  Later, men wore their hair long and often braid it, very much like our darling Jared circa 2014.  Until 1922, when the Emperor chopped off his own ponytail in rebellion, it was mandatory for Chinese men to shave the front of their heads and tie their long hair back in silk laden braids.  Japanese men also traditionally wore their front hair shaved but tied the long part up into a man-bun, now back in trend thanks to Leonardo DiCaprio. 

eye-candy-rick-mora-9Like Samson, Native American tribes have always believed that those with longer locks proved more powerful and wise.  In the Middle Ages, Euro men introduced many trends in hair that are now commonly found on the male hipster of today: top knots, long hair with a middle part and of course, bushy beards.  Back then, everyone with lower status than the king (so…EVERYONE) had to wear their hair shorter than his ‘do.  The page-boy cut appeared in the 11th century, and never looked back; the rest is Beatles history.

These days long hair on men can signify a variety of things: the heart of an artist, rebellion against the status quo, rebellion against barbers, a desire to lead an unstructured life, sexual adventurousness, celibacy, or just because guys are lazy or broke.  No matter what history has taught us, a man with long hair will probably piss your dad off, so he’ll always be popular with the ladies.

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Oh, Mexico – Famous for its food, its art, its ancient history, and its people.  Today, I’d like to talk about Mexico’s sexiest people.  Thanks to a Cosmopolitan article that popped up on my news feed last month I learned about some of Mexico’s hottest telenovela exports.  Like this fine young specimen by the name of Gonzalo Garcia Vivanco – Ay, caliente!!!  hot Gonzalo Then I swiftly remembered that I am not writing a BuzzFeed article (for the record I would have called it “10 hottest Telenovela stars without their shirts on“) and I asked myself, where did it all begin for these gents?

It turns out that this multi-million dollar branch of the entertainment industry started in Mexico in 1959 with The Price of the Sky.  The themes varied only slightly… from betrayal to loss!  From jealousy to desire!  From passion to rage!  Audiences were hooked from the start.  In the 1960s when, Maria, the titular character of Peruvian telenovela’s “Simplemente Maria” got married, almost 10,000 emotionally invested fans showed up at the church.  Less like American soap operas and more like evening dramas, telenovelas air after dinner.  Families gather around and watch back-to-back episodes for hours on end.  Interestingly enough, the plots aren’t only superficial love stories and they aren’t afraid to tap into social issues.  Some modern telenovelas grabble with politics, gender identities and mental illness.  One famous show, aptly titled “Without Breasts There is No Paradise” explored a sex-workers struggle to raise money for breast augmentation surgery.  And as we have learned, telenovelas are a stepping stone for actors looking to break into Hollywood, it can’t hurt that their stars are considered the best looking people in Latin America, like heaththrob actor Gael Garcia Bernal.  Salma Hayek, one of Mexico’s most famous exports, did not shy away from parodying her past when she guest starred on “30 101telenovelaRock“.  The episode “Generalissimo” chronicaled her mother’s irrational mistrust of her boyfriend (Alec Baldwin’s Jack Donaghy) simply because he looked similar to the villain on her favorite telenovela.  Telenovelas have been hot since they started and with the line up of babes gracing the screen these days, they are not loosing any traction.  They create pop stars, internationally renowned actors and even affect jewelry sales – all the while captivating audiences in over 50 countries with the shocking twists and turns of it’s infamous latin melodrama.

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Love Lost – or Yet To Be Found

Posted on: December 10th, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

Posting that classic soul song by the Fifth Dimension yesterday made me realize just how long it’s been since I’ve felt the pangs of lost love. One less bell to answer, one less egg to fry… don’t you just love it? And their clothes.

You have to have love to lose it, and it’s been a while for me – for both. So long that I don’t know if I miss it. Isn’t that a strange place to be? And one I never thought I’d find myself in.

When I was younger, I lived to love. It was so important to me to have love in my life. Don’t get me wrong, I still feel it’s important – love, intimacy, and touch, oh yes touch. They are as necessary for us as breathing air. But I don’t miss the sad, painful part of losing love.

Now I love to live and don’t seem to even find the time to seek out amorous attention (except on rare occasions like last week when I was out with my girlfriend Tippy – but that story is for another blog post).

I don’t know if I’m getting old, or this is just a phase – a time for me to regroup and define exactly who and what I want. But if (okay, when) love finds me again, yes…I’ll be all over it.

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Best Friends

Posted on: November 26th, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

It amazes me how people still stare or feel uncomfortable when around same sex couples. I was recently out with my two best friends who temporarily split up after years of marriage but are now happily together again – remember that blog post?

It happens that they are both men. They don’t dress any more flamboyantly than you or me, a scarf here or floral shirt there. No biggie. They are not openly affectionate in public, although it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know they are madly deeply in love. Yet, whenever we go out together people in the room seem to single them out and stare. On occasion I’ve seen people (mostly other men) move away from them.

Maybe it’s me being overly sensitive. Maybe they’re really reacting to the fact that they recognize love and are warmed or moved or even a bit jealous. Maybe it’s me who is creating a homophobic scenario when there is none. Maybe I need to just relax and enjoy the moment and forget worrying about what is going on around me. If I love my two best friends, isn’t that all that matters?


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Dating Tips for the Feminist Man

Posted on: October 8th, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

If you recall, Tuesday before last our blog put the question how does a woman find a good man out to our male readers. It ignited quite a response, much to my delight.

Richard Tinsley feels that becoming a ‘sad looking, lonely middle age women who sits at the bar…’ is not the way to go. (agreed) He suggests a great way for women to meet men is to find a hobby – music or dance classes, pottery or hiking, coed of course. Nothing new but duly noted. He added that cat shows are a sure fire way to meet a prospective mate. This one is a new to me, but I’m sure there are plenty of cat shows around if one looks.

My good pal and writing bud, GB, simply said ‘by loving herself and not looking’. Mm Hmm.

The info below was discovered by one of ML’s spies just in time to post for you smart men out there. It’s a little lengthy, and perhaps written with the younger man in mind, but there’s always more to learn for men and women when it comes to dating, loving, respecting and most of all understanding one another.

Dating tips for the feminist man

Thanks for the feedback everybody. Let’s keep the conversation going.


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