Archive for the ‘romance’ Category

Cheating Hearts

Posted on: September 17th, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

A recent discovery has me flummoxed. That’s right. I found out that a friend of mine has been cheating on her husband for years. Ten years! And I never knew about it.

I mean, I guess I shouldn’t expect to be privy to everything about a friend, or a lover for that matter, but you know females. We share. It’s not that we share intimate details of personal stuff, although I suppose some do. But we talk about things that happen in our lives; love, relationships, kids, silly things we’ve done, successes we’ve had, laughs and sorrow. This particular friend tells all – or so I thought. Now I discover she’s been seeing another man for over ten years yet no one had the slightest idea because she and her husband of twenty three years seem so deliriously happy together. How can this be?

She outed herself quite by accident when we bumped into her lover at a coffee shop. The chemistry between them was so electric that I couldn’t help ask if she knew him, which was the moment of the big reveal. It was her expression that gave her away.

She claims she loves both her husband and her lover, and that her husband doesn’t know about it and her lover doesn’t care that he will always be only the lover. Kind of perfect really, except in order for it to truly be perfect her husband should know. Really. Then again, I know the guy and I am not sure how he would take the news, especially since it’s been going on for ten years.

Don’t you just love that a word like flummox exists?

ML

Pin It

Change in Weather

Posted on: August 27th, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

It rained today. And with the rain came the offer of a date. Yessss! The dry spell is over.

I got a phone call from what sounded like a lovely man who had gotten my name (and number) from a ‘good friend’. He wouldn’t say who. I called a few of the usual suspects and no one copped to it. I emailed a number of folks who don’t generally get involved in playing matchmaker and of course they knew nothing about it. Curiouser and curiouser. Who is this guy and how did he find me?

We did chat for five minutes.

Me: So, what do you do for work?

Him:What I absolutely love.

Me: Where do you live?

Him: In an apartment close to the water.

Me: What do you look like? Because of course I’ll need to know so I recognize you when we meet.

Him: You’ll know it’s me.

I could see a slight smirk cross his face through the silence at the other end of the receiver. He was thoroughly enjoying himself, and so was I.

Our date is tomorrow, 6 pm at one of my (and apparently his) favorite watering holes. Until then I get to fantasize about whether he is tall, short, bald, hairy, fit, round, gentle, arrogant, rich, poor, all of which I couldn’t care less about but it’s entertainment. At least he has a sense of humor. I also get to visualize what his apartment looks like or where exactly it is. Through his smug phone intro, I get to anticipate meeting this mystery man. Yay! A date.

ML

Pin It

Never A Dull Moment

Posted on: August 13th, 2013 by Madison Lake 1 Comment

Jerry and Ron have been lovers and partners for eighteen years. I adore hanging out with them because together they are the epitome of what a romantic relationship should be like. They are affectionate but not overly, they talk about global issues as well as deeply personal ones, they are kind to one another, generous in heart and spirit, and work at keeping their partnership alive. I know that’s my personal opinion, and I’m biased because they are my friends, but we all have our role models, and Jer and Ron are mine.

On Sunday, we went out for brunch. Ron was unusually quiet and Jerry was making up for it in spades by being overly perky and chatty. I couldn’t help feel he was compensating for Ron’s mood so I finally asked them what was going on. Ron looked over at Jerry who finally stopped jabbering. He looked down at his hands and sheepishly said to me “Ron and I are going to be taking some time apart.” My jaw dropped. I could not believe my ears. How could the happiest, most perfect couple in the world let me down like this?

“It’s been eighteen fabulous years,” he went on. “And we’re not saying it’s over, but I want to explore other avenues before I’m too old (he laughed and winked at Ron), and Ron,” he paused and held Ron’s gaze, “Ron’s met someone else.”

I could feel the tears roll down my cheeks. It was as if someone had died. They both reached out for my empty hands and held them, the three of us linked together. “So obviously this is consensual,” I said. They nodded, although I got the feeling they were both toddlers still unsteady on their feet.

We finished our meal with our usual brunch attitude; upbeat conversation, jokes and laughter. One would never guess what was really going on. We hugged goodbye and they promised to keep in touch and ‘keep me in the loop’. I walked away feeling sad and empty but perhaps also hopeful that this might be a slight detour they have to make in order to continue on their way together.

Love is a mystery alright.

ML

Pin It

Having It All

Posted on: July 30th, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

This could be called The Endless Summer. Between writing and blogging, Tweeting and Linking, I’d say I’m getting enough outdoor patio time & sunshine to last me a good long while. Friends, events, and music abound in my world at the moment. It’s like one giant festival, as summer should be.

Despite the plentiful alms of the season, there is one thing missing in my life. Love.

At this age and stage I’m sadly still trying to figure out how (and why) love eludes me. It’s not that I haven’t tried, but there is that fine line of ‘trying too hard‘. I don’t do that. I don’t do anything except be me and go about my business. I guess what I’m saying is my bar pick-up days are over but I’m not. So what gives? How does a single woman meet good men?

Otherwise I could say that I have it all.

ML

Pin It

Relationships

Posted on: July 23rd, 2013 by Madison Lake No Comments

At what age and stage in life does a woman stop looking for her soul mate and settle comfortably into singledom? Obviously that’s a very subjective question and one that doesn’t necessarily require an answer.

I’ve been single now for many years – some say too many. Sure I’ve dated and even had ‘relationships’ but none came close to being Mr. Right. Lately I seem to have slipped more into the comfort of my own skin; hanging out with my girlfriends over going out to a bar to flirt with men, spending hours alone writing.

Girlfriend relationships are easy. Although not my sexual preference, I can see how some women who never thought of themselves as being in a same sex relationship, hook-up. It’s very easy for women to be around other women. The usual hang ups are not present. Women share feelings and offer support to one another. Talk comes easily.

My female friends often say to me ‘Now’s when you’ll meet someone, because you’re not looking’. Maybe they’re right. If not, I hope I continue hanging out with myself and my gal pals, keeping my peripheral vision on the men around me. After all, I do like men.

ML

Pin It