Posts Tagged ‘find your mate’


So what’s the magic formula for finding a mate? Why is it that some people never seem to be alone? They may break-up, separate, divorce, but they are in a new relationship within a short period of time. Others can’t seem to find ‘the right one’. What is it that makes that connection between some and not others?

I do believe in fate. I believe that we meet people for a reason. That reason may be clear as day or it may manifest later for us to realize why. I believe it’s timing – being at the right place at the right time – and being open to receiving.

Some people may think that those who go from one relationship to another without having any ‘alone time’ are just afraid of being alone. A different perspective is that they are open, they want, love, companionship, a relationship. But then, what about people who have been alone for a while, who are lonely and don’t necessarily want to be alone? Does that mean they are not open? Maybe.

On a different note, there is a theory about what brings people together, what makes people connect. In laymen’s terms it is about how each of us puts out a different scent, an odour. Most female and male animals operate through scent. Have you ever wondered why some people attract you in a crowd and others do not? Walk into a busy Starbucks. Don’t think too much about it but be aware of who your immediate attraction is for. It’s interesting. And apparently it happens instantaneously. Read here.    


About twenty years ago I was waiting in my car at a red light. A young man crossed the street and looked directly at me through the windshield. Both of us were riveted to each other’s gaze and could not stop staring. The light changed and I had to drive on but that image and memory has stuck with me all these years. Who was he and why was our connection so strong, even through a car window? It was powerful and sometimes I wonder if I will run into him again sometime. One never knows why our paths (literally) crossed and why the memory has stayed with me.

So, here we have two (maybe three) different theories on how people meet or connect. I don’t know about you but I find this kind of stuff fascinating. What are your thoughts? We’d love to have a conversation about this so please share by commenting to this blog.

Till next time…keep connecting.