Posts Tagged ‘love’

Bah Humbug

Posted on: December 15th, 2015 by Madison Lake 1 Comment


That’s Scrooge, not necessarily me. Or maybe it is me.

I signed off of the traditional North American Christmas a few years ago but it’s hard to give up on the gift giving. Everyone expects it. Either that or you receive gifts then feel badly that you aren’t giving any.

This year, however, I am sticking with my decision. It isn’t that I am not generous or that I want to be Scrooge but I give gifts all year round. I don’t see why people go berserk shopping and often times buying senseless gifts at overblown prices just because it’s Christmas.

I don’t celebrate religious rituals of the holiday season but I do honour them. And above all I celebrate family and friends, gathering together to revel in the spirit of sharing, love and life and all that we are so fortunate to have. I know it’s trite but it’s true.

Other than the odd post and random blog, we’ll be taking a short break from December 21st and will return full swing on January 4th.

Happy Holidays to you and yours. Raise a glass. Be merry. Be grateful.

ML and Crew

My Cup Runneth Over

Posted on: October 6th, 2015 by Madison Lake No Comments


When was the last time you felt overwhelmed with success? I’m not talking about wealth or fame, I’m talking about achievement within, being satisfied with yourself, with your accomplishments, with simply being where you are right here, right now.

We should.

Whether a skilled painter or poet, cook or housekeeper, it is a crucial part of our well being and success to feel our accomplishments at the beginning and at the end of each day. We all have something to bring to this party we call life. We have to remind ourselves of that.

Give yourself a pat on the back, pat your neighbour, your friend, your colleague, the store owner down the street, the bus driver who takes you to work, the garbage collector, the single mothers.

I feel overwhelmed at the support I have been receiving for my book/writing accomplishments. My launch was a success thanks to so many wonderful friends and family who came to hear me read. People I have never met from Twitter, Facebook, Instagram—a huge contingent of support when, like most artists, I struggle to make ends meet.

A shout out to GB (and his Faithful Few), who have been hard at work creating powerful videos with poetic messages of faith, hope and love, MA, an ultra creative, hardworking mentor to others, ST who puts her heart and soul into art that fills the world with beauty and colour, KLK, SW, NF to name only a few, and to my fabulous, kooky, creative family who never cease to supply me with love and laughter.

In short, realize who is around you, how they impact your life and how you impact theirs. Share these insights with one another and with others. “What goes around comes around” and it’s true.

Be amazed. Be grateful. The world can only be a better place for it.




It Doesn’t Really Matter

Posted on: August 4th, 2015 by Madison Lake No Comments


So, I finally figured out how to login and create a profile. Not that I’m not computer savvy but Match had a thing with postal codes from Canada. Anyway, I’ve taken the plunge. I guess I figured it was time to get out of my cloistered world of writing romance and start to actually live it a little.

It’s weird.

I did the whole online dating thing many years ago but I have been out of the loop for some time. Now I find myself staring at a bunch of photos of men, reading mostly mundane profiles of them, and feeling such a disconnect that I wonder what I’m doing this for. However, I shall persevere. After all, it’s only been one week.

It’s a mystery to me how I might find someone who ignites that spark, who is going to get me, who will like me a lot and still let me be – that is, let me be who I’ve been and am happy being. How do you put two people together at this age and stage who each have their own history, set of experiences, life choices, quirks, needs, pet peeves, beliefs…who have likely gotten set in their ways?

Then again, all that doesn’t really matter. All I want is a date.

Stay tuned. This adventure is just beginning.



Excerpt on Fear & Love

Posted on: July 28th, 2015 by Madison Lake No Comments

broken heart

My good friend, LaMont Wright, aka Graffiti Bleu, posted this great podcast the other day that gave me pause. Many good points were made, many good questions asked from both sides of the Fear vs Love conversation, all spoken in poignant lyrical poetry and song.

I agree, fear and love are the same thing – they come from the same place. It’s what we do with them in that place that makes all the difference. fear of love /  fear and love / fear without love / fear / love…

We all have our stories. Our stories create us to be who we are and it is up to us to not change, but rewrite our stories so we can feel love without fear, so we can love fearlessly. Important reminders in a society entrapped in judgement, fear mongering, abuse of power and rights, and so on.

I especially love the analogy of mother and child. Listen up:

Fear & Love Cypher



Single & Aging

Posted on: July 14th, 2015 by Madison Lake No Comments

Who would have thunk it? Certainly not

Even though I’ve been single on and off for a number of years, I always thought – always believed – I’d one day find the man for me. Every year the same refrain rings in my head: I never thought I’d still be single at this age. 

Well, here I am.

Another birthday under my belt, another year looking ahead at what’s in store (or not) for finding Mister Right. Oh, there are plenty of positives about getting older and copious amounts of things to do and see and experience. However, in the world of dating or mating or just plain companionship, life looks bleaker the older one gets.

In my world I am surrounded by couples who have been married or together for 25, even 35 years. I have friends who are serial daters, and I know a lot of women who have lost their men to much younger women (or men) and are now left at ripe old ages to start anew. It’s tough.

And why is it tougher for women than for men? Why does it seem easier for men to find partners than for women? Are there really more women in the world than there are men or is it simply due to the way men and women are wired? All I know is the older I get, the cluster for my demographic grows smaller.

It is said that there is someone out there for everyone. Keep believing.